Monday, August 28, 2017

7 Things To Do Before Having Kids


   I’ll start this by saying kids are great. There is nothing in the world like giving birth to another human being. The experience is a blessing and it’s life changing. I really do mean it is life changing. Once you become a parent you have another person that you are responsible for. Spontaneity no longer exists. I totally believe you can still do what ever you want once you have kids but you now have to plan everything around this little person. So if your goal is to have kids one day there are some things I highly recommend you do before that day comes.



Travel the world
   You may already have a place in mind. Whether you want to go to a fancy Bed and Breakfast in Georgia, spend a week in an Italian villa or back pack across Europe you need to do it before you have kids. Imagine having to get passports for a whole family and then trying to sight see once you get to your destination. Not to mention the small fortune it would cost. Do it now then when you do have kids you’ll have awesome stories to tell.

Go to school
   This may seem like a no brainer but a lot of people think it’s best to take time off after high school. It starts off as one year and turns in to many more. Then before you know it you’re trying to juggle school and kids while trying to keep your sanity. Go to school; get your education so you can secure a good future for not only yourself but your little ones as well.

Live alone
   Many people get a roommate or two to save money and that is the smart thing to do when you’re first starting out on your own but then you go from a roommate to living with your significant other and next thing you know you’ve got a full blown family. Take the time to live by yourself. There is nothing like waking up in your own home with no one to answer to. Hell walking around naked is a pleasure that gets taken for granted. If you take some time for yourself to live alone you’ll be so glad you did once you have kids.

Appreciate your body
   It’s ok to take care of yourself but don’t obsess with how you look right now. Chances are you are beautiful and just being extremely hard on yourself. Once you have kids and your body changes you’re going to wish you appreciated your post baby body and realize you didn’t look bad after all.

Save your money
   Again, another no brainer but saving money is usually something people don’t think about until the baby is already on the way and at that point it gets kind of hard because the money is getting spent faster than it can be made. Having a baby is expensive, raising a kid costs even more so make sure you’re financially prepared so you can enjoy your new bundle of joy instead of being stressed out about how to take care of it. 

Get to know your spouse
   Much like living by yourself is important it’s also important for you and your spouse to live alone before having kids so you can get to know one another. Spend time with just the two of you and develop a bond. Once baby comes along you really will only have each other to depend on and that bond will keep you together when things get stressful.

Have fun
   It’s a lot harder to party and be hung over the next day when you have kids. So live your life and have fun. Life will still be fun once you have a family but it will be a different kind of fun. So party, get shit faced and then enjoy the silence as you suffer from a hang over the next day with no kids to bother you asking for breakfast.

   These are just some of the things I think are important to do before having kids but I highly recommend you make your own list of goals and start checking them off your list. Don’t worry if you don’t get them all done. At least once you become a parent you’ll have an adorable little partner to tackle the rest of your list with.




Wednesday, August 16, 2017

Fashion Tips For The Busy Mom




   Mom is a title that carries a lot of weight and is full of so much responsibility. We spend most of our days tending to the needs of others we can easily forget about our own needs and ourselves. As moms we tend to look as exhausted as we feel but we don’t have to. With just a few basic pieces of clothing, some accessories and a little time you can look like an off duty model instead of an on duty mom. 

   Let’s start with the basics. Believe it or not a pair of great fitting jeans and a simple t-shirt is the foundation for a put together look. When choosing your denim go for what is comfortable for you. If you’re not into the latest trends, then don’t attempt them. Hey, distressed denim is not for everyone. Your t-shirt can be a plain solid color or it can be a vintage band tee just make sure it’s not too tight, too short or too long.  I like mine to go to mid hip.  


Every day outfits



 If you’re running around doing errands with the kids opt for cute and comfortable shoes. My favorites are white low top converse. They are comfy, easy to clean and always in style.

All white Chucks




I stopped using diaper bags a long time ago. Big bulky bags with characters on them just didn’t cut it for me. Instead I just carry a large purse with me that can double as a diaper bag. The key is it has to have a lot of inside compartments.

   The next step is makeup. Now I know what you’re thinking, “Where am I going to find the time to apply makeup?” Have a “go to” look. A signature look is a real time saver. Once you’ve done it so many times you begin to get into a rhythm and it becomes second nature to you. What may have started out as a 30-minute process can become 10 once you’ve mastered it. My go to look? Polished brows, dark lips, winged liner and lots and lots of mascara!

   To take your look from day to night is easier than you’d think. Simply dress it up with a pair of heels and a statement necklace. 


    I hope you find this advice to be of some help. Give it a try and I bet all the moms at the next PTA meeting will be wanting to know how you look so good!

Monday, August 14, 2017

Why #relationshipgoals is Unhealthy



  As I scan my social media time lines I’ve been seeing a hashtag running rampant on the likes of Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Apparently not of the hottest things around is #RelationshipGoals accompanied by a picture of an adorably cute couple doing cutsie things like cuddling, on a date holding hands or simply watching TV together. Do I think every couple should have relationship goals? Yes, I do. However, I do not think those goals need to be based off of a picture of another couple.

Behind the Scenes
   There was a time that seemed like forever ago I would see other couples and think to myself “They are so adorable I would love a relationship like that.” Then over time the relationships that I wanted to emulate began to unravel at the seams. Everything we on the outside of these relationships are seeing only what these couples wanted us to see but on the inside there was infidelity, unhealthy amounts of fighting and many other things that were well hidden until it couldn’t be hidden anymore. I couldn’t believe I was Naïve enough to try and strive to be like someone else when they had problems of their own.

Social Media Will Make You Feel Bad
   Nowadays with social media we get to see a glimpse into other people’s lives but again, it is only what they want us to see. While we scroll through Facebook and see all of the pictures of flowers or read the status updates about “How Bae is the best ever. I love him so much.” We oohh and ahh at them and silently wish for the love that they have but we don’t know what’s really going on. We don’t see that the flowers were sent because Bae didn’t come home last night. Too many times have I seen lovey dovey status updates from a couple I know but in real life I’ve seen first hand the turmoil of their relationship.

Make Your Own Goals
   It’s all right to take certain aspects of a person’s life and want to adjust it to fit your life. For example a couple worked really hard to buy a new house or brand new cars. Or someone just celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary. Work towards those kind of goals but It’s important to sit down with your significant other and set achievable goals for your own relationship. Don’t try to mirror someone else’s relationship when all you’re really getting is little glimpses into their lives and not able to see the full picture. You could be striving for something that you might not really want.


    I want to be clear and say not all couples on social media are creating a façade but it’s always best to find who makes you happy and create your own  #RelationshipGoals.

Sunday, August 13, 2017

Giving You More Of Me & Rebranding


   I've been blogging since October 2012. I've been writing since before I can remember. Over the past 5 years, I've put a lot into this blog or as I like to refer to it as my little corner of the internet. In that time I've done everything from write every day to not write for weeks at a time.   From the end of June til now has been one of those silent times. It's not that I've lost a love of writing or reviewing beauty products and giving you makeup tutorials... it's just that I'm more than that... much more. 

   I haven't given you all I have to give. I haven't given you my full authentic self. So I've been trying to decide just how to do that, I finally figured it out. Besides being a makeup artist and clothing designer I am also a mother of 7 and a wife. I had a separate blog where I shared all of my family stories and advice on motherhood but it was a lot of work and something that was supposed to be fun and helpful became an overwhelming task that I stepped away from completely.

   So I have decided to rebrand just a little. While I won't be flooding your timelines and shoving parenting articles down your throats there will be a good mix of the usual beauty and fashion along with some new things. This will also open the door to me taking a lot more guest posts. I really want to build a solid community. 

   I feel good about the changes that are on the way and I hope you'll stick around, comment and share everything I have to give.

xoxo,
SJM

Monday, June 26, 2017

Urban Decay Naked Heat Palette Review



 By now all makeup addicts know that Urban Decay has released a new Naked palette. Not everyone has welcomed the idea of yet another addition to the Naked family with open arms. I've heard some negative feedback as well as positive from the beauty community but was determined to find out for myself.

   Of the previous Naked palettes I own the 1, 3 and Basics. I like them all but 3 has always been my most liked simply because I find the color scheme romantic while the Basics was what I wore the most simply because the colors were more wearable for my line of work at the time.

   Enter the Naked Heat. At first sight on the Urban Decay Facebook page I fell in lust. Without a swatch or seeing it in person I knew I had to have it. As soon as I got it in the mail I knew I made the right decision.



    The packaging is beautiful and nothing like the other palettes. The box is hard and the outside colors mimic the shades inside. As always it comes with its own brush... Double sided no less.

   Take note that the shadows are perfect for every skin tone. They are so rich and creamy making this palette a must have for everyone! The thing I love the most is the Naked Heat is finally a palette for us girls with darker skin. The other Naked palettes limited us on looks we could create with them. The Heat is perfect for my skin tone and I can see myself reaching for this palette more than any other.


   The only thing I don't agree with is that it is a part of the Naked collection. I feel that the Heat palette can stand in a class by itself.




                                                    I'll be swooning over this one for a while.




   Be sure to follow me on Snapchat. I've been hanging out on there a lot more lately and I show all of my nee stuff there first!

Friday, May 26, 2017

Makeup Minute: Tarte Kiss & Blush Palette and Double Ended lip & cheek Brush


   I know my last Makeup Minute was also for Tarte but they are quickly becoming one of my favorite brands. Like always I was on the Sephora app and saw the Tarte Kiss and Blush palette and Double ended Cheek and Lip brush and immediately had to get them.


   First of all I'm a sucker for great packaging and Tarte seems to be getting it right for the entire Rainforest of the Sea collection. The shades of purple and blue along with gold is perfect! The color scheme and design is reminiscent of a tropical getaway.


   The palette is made up of  five beautiful colors made to be used as a cream blush and doubles as lipsticks. There is definitely a color to compliment any skin tone. To bring it all together is a gorgeous cream highlight right in the middle.

   To apply it perfectly is the gorgeous double ended brush made to go perfectly with the palette.

   I feel like these are must haves for the summer months.

Friday, May 12, 2017

Hollywood's Reigning Best Actress Is A Perfect Beauty Role Model


   If you tend to be a close follower of Hollywood celebrities there's a good chance you tuned in for the Academy Awards back in February. It’s always a great time for the stars to strut their best stuff, and while the following day always brings about a bunch of “best and worst looks” articles, I'm here to focus on the positives!

   La La Land star Emma Stone played a big role on the red carpet and at the show itself. The story behind her winning look is one that any self-respecting fashionista ought to enjoy hearing. Attending the show as a representative of La La Land, Stone was careful to embrace classic designs and beauty tricks. She reportedly wore one of the last Givenchy gowns designed by the legendary Riccardo Tisci, and worked with her beauty team to adopt a sort of “old Hollywood” glamour, circa 1930. The result was lovely from top to bottom—and it needed to be!

   Stone wasn’t just attached to the 2017 Oscars because La La Land was in the running for Best Picture. The young actress was the favorite for Best Actress, which may speak to why she put such care into developing the perfect look. As movie fans and celebrity watchers are probably aware, she took home the top prize and looked great when she accepted the award.

   But while Stone was the Hollywood icon for one night, her short history as a celebrity has revealed a balanced and healthy approach to beauty. Comments in the last few years have shown her to be part of a trend of young stars embracing the beauty tips and tricks available to celebrities without getting twisted ideas about body image or self-love. You can’t help but think it makes her an ideal role model for young women that want to be secure and strive for traditional beauty at the same time.

   Long before she was Hollywood’s Best Actress, Stone talked about image and what it means to her when people are critical of each other’s weight and beauty. She seems to have reached a place where she recognizes that most criticism is projection, and that those calling out others for being overweight, underweight, or whatever are usually revealing their own insecurities.

   This is how Stone rose above body image-related criticism. She even admitted that it’s helped her to try to eliminate gossip from her own tendencies. Her take is not the traditional celebrity “everybody is beautiful” take that can come across as kind of pretentious. Stone seems like she has a healthy understanding of where criticism comes from and how to make the most of it.

   Even so, the actress isn’t afraid to talk about the effort she puts into her own image and there are some good tips there. She’s talked about her own love of makeup, and how she came to realize she couldn’t do close to as good a job as the pros. She’s talked about how she deals with dry skin and hair, and what some of her must-have beauty items are. It’s the kind of beauty advice we always want from celebrities, and to get it from someone so thoroughly grounded in realistic image concerns is a treat.
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